A Father's Day Meditation

In honor of Father's Day, I offer the following meditation. In truth, it's more a list of affirmations, but regardless of what you call it, I hope it serves.

Father's Day Meditation

I am a willing parent.

I will give my child the best I have to offer.

I will allow my child to live their life - not the life I wish I had.

I will allow my child to make mistakes and learn.

I will forgive my child's faults and continue to love.

I will forgive my faults and continue to love.

I will let go of my past so that I can be the best parent possible.

I will remember that I, too, was a child.

I am a willing parent and I continue to love.

In peace,

Lane

The Two Wolves Within

Last Thursday, I wrote about finding God within ourselves. As I reflected on that premise, I remembered a story I've heard many times over the years. It's about something else that goes on inside of each of us - the fight between "two wolves."

According to most sources, including many of the the indigenous Native American nations, this teaching story is Cherokee, and is used to illustrate to their children the need to always focus on the positive. Here is one version I have heard:

A young boy comes to his grandfather for guidance. He is very angry at his friend for some slight or wrong. The grandfather smiles and says "I have also felt anger at those who have done so much wrong, feeling no regret for their actions. But anger and hatred hurts you, not your enemy. It is the same as cutting yourself and wishing that your enemy would die.

"It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good, and he does no harm. He walks in harmony with all around him. He takes no offense when none was intended, and he only fights when he must, and it is right to do so. And , even then, he fights with honor.

"The other wolf, though, is full of anger and hate. Even the smallest perceived slight will enrage him. He is always fighting someone, often for no reason at all. Because of his constant anger, he cannot think or act with honor. But it is helpless anger because it changes nothing.

"It is not easy to live with these two wolves inside me. Each wolf tries its best to dominate my spirit, and so they fight each other all the time."

The boy sat for some time, considering his grandfather's words. Finally, he looks up and asks, "Grandfather, which one wins?"

The elder smiles and touches his grandson's chest, just over the heart, and says, "the one we feed."

Walking a good path - living a life with Spirit - is not always easy. Nor should we expect it to be, especially in today's world. Like it or not, we constantly encounter negativity in one form or another. There are rude people, selfish people, people who live in anger... people who whine and complain, people who justify any means as long as it serves their interests.

At such times, it's all too easy to respond in kind. When someone makes a rude comment we can, without thinking, enter into a game of oneupsmanship in an attempt to hurt the other person more than we have been hurt. Or, we can feed the good wolf, and hold our anger in check. When another causes us harm in our lives, we can wallow in our anger and hatred for that person, or we can rise above base emotions to cultivate our higher spiritual selves.

This does not mean we ignore the wrong committed. Rather, we connect with the God within to respond with compassion and love, because we know that God is within the other person as well, even if they don't know it. We can certainly stand our ground, but by feeding the good wolf, we can do so with honor, and without unnecessary negative thought or action.

The two wolves are always within each of us. And at every moment of choice between right and wrong, they battle for supremacy. Learning to feed the good wolf is an important step in living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Finding the God Within

On May 17 I offered service at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. The subject was Finding the God Within. Today I'd like to offer a few thoughts based on that presentation.

We have been told throughout the ages that the key to being close to the Divine is to look within for the Sacred within ourselves. And yet many continue to look outside themselves for manifestations of God. We read again and again that we are children of the One, but forget it as soon as we turn our eyes to the material world.

I have found that by praying often during the day - not just beginning and ending each day with a prayer, but offering prayers repeatedly - it helps me remain close to the Sacred. Other practices that help me are using a mantra and practicing meditation. All of these help remind me that I am a child of the Sacred, and that my greatest task in this life is to come closer to the source of all life.

Yes, all of the above are useful. However, they are only the beginning. When we manifest our spirit - our True Self - in the material world, we realize our true potential as spiritual beings. That is why many work so hard to serve others. We know from the teachings that we are called to serve our fellow man to the best of our ability. We are told that our greatest rewards are derived from this service.

Forgiveness is one of the most spiritual acts we can perform. Just as the Sacred immediately forgives our acts of transgression, we must learn to forgive others. Therefore, when someone's actions or words hurt or anger me, I do my best to remind myself that I am far from perfect. While that person's actions may be different from mine, they are no different on the basic level. All misguided action separates us from God, and keeps us from accomplishing our mission.

When we respond to another's actions based on the God energy within us, we cannot hold negative thoughts. When we look at the other person and see the God within them, we cannot judge and find them lacking. All we see is a reflection of ourselves, and of God, in that other person, and we recognize that we are all doing our best.

Our challenge is to continuously recognize the God within ourselves and all others - not just fellow humans, but all of creation. The whale manifests God as much as we do. The tree lifting its branches to the sky is a manifestation of God. Even the rocks - called by some "the grandfathers" manifest God in their unique way.

When we recognize the God energy within all things, we come one step closer to reuniting with the creator of all things. When we focus our existence on the Sacred, we remember that our journey is not about being better, but simply actuating our True Self – that part of us that is God, the part of us that is One with all things. And we find the God within.

Finding the God within is an important step in living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Hell is the Absence of God

A thought came back to me this week as I've been preparing to offer services at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center this Sunday. I have a good friend (a Christian) with whom I have many deeper conversations regarding faith. Some time ago, we were discussing the concept of heaven and hell. He said, "hell is the absence of God." I couldn't agree more.

The more removed we are from God, the more fear, pain and loneliness we suffer. When we don't welcome the Sacred into our hearts, much less into our lives, we remove ourselves from the flow of divine energy that permeates the universe.

Conversely, the closer we come to fully living a life with Spirit, the closer we come to God, the more joy, peace, fulfillment and love will fill our lives.

It really is that simple. Yet it is also deeply profound. Our spirits yearn to be one with the Sacred. When we are disconnected, we feel it inside, in our heart, even when we cannot recognize it in our mind. As we devote more of our energy to the spiritual essence of our existence, we feel a sense of completeness that we may not have even known was missing.

For those who may be interested, I'll offer a pair of short mantras that can be used in meditation, or at any time during the day when you want to feel closer to the Divine:

I am a child of the Sacred. I serve the greater good.

Depending on your own life way, you may wish to replace "the Sacred" with God, the Father, Mother, or one of the other names of God. In meditation, I use both phrases; during the day I may, depending on the circumstances, use only one of them. I leave it to the reader to decide what is best for them.

Understanding that we create our own hell when we remove ourselves from the company of the Sacred is an important step toward living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Gay Marriage and Religion

Yesterday, Maine became the fifth state to legalize gay marriage. This continues the trend in New England, where most states have legalized same-sex marriages, with others poised to follow suit. One of the comments made by State Senator Debra Plowman (R-Hampden) gave me pause. She said that the bill passed "at the expense of people of faith."

To me, this is wrong on two levels. First and foremost, who is she to speak for all people of faith? I consider myself a person of deep faith, and yet I enthusiastically welcome efforts to legalize same-sex marriages. I know many gay and lesbian people who are also people of faith. I know of churches who gladly open their doors to gay and lesbian members; some even allow gay clergy.

In fact, if Plowman can claim to speak for anyone, it is for those who would force their religious views on others. To me, that smacks of theocracy, and we all know how dangerous that can be. All we have to do is look around the world to see the negative impact of theocratic government.

SIDE NOTE: I wonder how many Americans, especially "people of faith", know the truth about the Puritans. In school we are taught that the Puritans fled religious persecution. In truth, it was exactly the opposite. They were thrown out of England because they were attempting to force their religious views on the rest of society. They then tried the same thing in Holland and were thrown out again. When they arrived on American soil, the Puritans set up a government based on their religion - one which allowed the public ridicule of offenders (the Scarlet Letter comes to mind), and torture and burning of those accused of witchcraft - which often was merely an understanding of the use of herbs to cure illnesses.

Second, I still do not understand how allowing gay and lesbian marriages harms others. No one is forcing a church that does not believe in gay marriage to sanction them, perform them, or even recognize them within their organization. Conversely, refusing others rights because their own beliefs do not reconcile you their own, they are actually denying rights to others based on a religious philosophy.

Many opponents of gay and lesbian marriage claim that it destroys the sanctity of marriage. How is that? What is it about gay marriage that is so damaging? I think that, if you want to protect the sanctity of marriage, you would be better served by working to end divorce, family violence and other problems. Refusing the right of marriage to others because their lifestyle is different does nothing to protect marriage at all. It only serves to force others into your own mindset.

I am proud of the state of Maine. I am also proud to support gay/lesbian marriage. I believe that offering to others the same respect and compassion as I hope to receive from others, regardless of whether or not their beliefs reconcile perfectly with mine, is an important step towards living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Simplify

Here's a one-word answer to the question: How can I better (or, more fully) live a life of spirit?

Simplify.

Own less by getting rid of things you don't really need. For instance, one closet management article I read a few years back said that, barring seasonal clothing, if you haven't worn it in three to six months, throw it out or donate it. Others suggest adopting more of a Feng Shui mindset, removing as much as possible from every room in the house.

Here's the thing: consumerism, especially at the current level, is contrary to the teachings we all receive from our various religions. Worshiping at the altar of How Much I Have is not spiritual.

The fact that many of us have far more than we need is testament that we have fallen for the lie that money is the key to happiness. It isn't, and deep down, we know it.

I'm in the process of further simplification. I'll be back in a day or two with more on that. For now, just consider what you can do to simplify your life... in the hopes that it helps you live a better life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Live Like You're Dying

What if you died tomorrow? What if today is the last day of your life? How would that change things for you?

These questions have hung in my mind for several weeks. I read The Last Lecture, by Randy Pausch. When he discovered he had terminal cancer, Randy's life changed dramatically. Yet in other ways, he simply continued as he always had - a giving, caring individual who actively sought ways to contribute to society and live a good life. He just looked for more opportunities to live the best life he could.

Reading Randy's thoughts on dying, and living, reminded me of a lesson from years ago. In his international best-seller, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman relates an extremely important thought: There are no ordinary moments.

Every minute of every day is a gift. Every minute wasted, or spent on something negative, is a moment you cannot retrieve. Both Pausch and Millman are telling us to make the most out of every minute of every day. They're telling us that, in order to get more out of life, we have to give all way have, all the time.

Whether you are at work, at play or at rest, immersing yourself in the activity will produce greater results. When interacting with others, be it your family, friends, coworkers, or strangers, giving your best enhances the experience. Even if all you are doing is having an ice cream cone, focusing on that sweet, cold refreshment will add to your enjoyment.

As I wrote of the ice cream cone above, an old memory popped to mind. I don't remember the comedian as it was many years ago, but I remember the last part of his skit. He talked about eating cookies, and how we often don't really enjoy them as much as we could. He talked about how much more delicious the last cookie in the package tastes. Then he went into a whole spiel about not realizing he was eating the last cookie, how he missed the entire experience because of his lack of awareness. He then ended by saying that, from then on, he ate every cookie as if it was his last, and urged the audience to do the same.

If it works for cookies, why not everything else? Enjoy the movie as if it were the last one you'll ever see. Enjoy making dinner with your family because it's the last food you'll ever have. Mow the lawn as if it were a testament to your dedication to your family. Enjoy every sunrise and every sunset, and everything between the two.

Everything we do is enhanced by careful attention, and by infusing the activity with love and compassion. Everyone we meet is better served when we bring our full attention to bear, and the best of ourselves into the interaction. Fill your days with productive work, compassionate service and joyful play and companionship, and you will enrich your life beyond measure.

Living every day as if you're dying is an excellent way to life a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Foodstock News

It's been a busy few weeks since I last posted. I apologize for the lapse, but I do have good news out of all that work. Danville Foodstock, a chapter of Foodstock Charities, has confirmed dates for two new events, and a strong commitment to produce a Foodstock benefit concert in San Jose, CA. Here are the details:

Working with The Danville High School Library Club, we're holding the first Foodstock DHS Inter-class Food Drive. The winning class (Freshmen through Seniors) will win an after-school party with refreshments and entertainment. Each student will also receive a certificate for participating and/or winning, as the case may be. The competition will run Monday, April 27, through Friday, May 1. All food and monetary donations will benefit the Danville Area Food Pantry. DAFP staff will audit all donations to ensure accuracy and fairness. Kurt Willer, Librarian for DHS and the sponsoring teacher for the Library Club, is our liason, and is handling everything with his club members. He was very excited to work with us, as the club was already searching for just such a project.

The second event will take place Saturday, June 6, as part of Spring Fest, an annual five-day carnival and festival produced by the Danville Jaycees. This year, Saturday will be designated Foodstock Day. We'll be collecting food and donations for the Danville Area Food Pantry, and celebrating with live music throughout the afternoon and evening. I'll be there, along with a lot of friends in the local music community as we combine two great causes, creating a stronger bond between the two organizations and helping us do more in the community.

The third piece of news is that my good friend Polo Jones enthusiastically volunteered to produce a Foodstock benefit concert in San Jose, CA. For two decades, Polo has been the bassist and musical director for a true international superstar, Zucchero. Performing to millions of fans world-wide on every tour, and selling millions of records, Zucchero (and Polo with him) has recorded with everyone from Luciano Pavorati to Eric Clapton.

For 2009, Polo is focusing on his new project while Zucchero takes a break from years of back-to-back touring and recording before beginning his next CD. In the meantime, Polo is busy recording and preparing to tour with Lighthouse for the Blind, a positive message heavy band featuring outsanding songwriting, filled with infectious grooves, tight harmonies and world-class musicianship.

About a week ago, Polo saw a report by our local ABC affiliate on the Foodstock Dinner Series. He went straight from that clip to our web site, which is where he learned about our benefit concerts. Like Mr. Willer's Library Club, Polo was consciously searching for something to do, something to help others. He emailed me right away, and by the time we spoke on the phone two days later, he'd already confirmed a venue and was talking to top local bands.

Wow! If this were hockey, we'd call that a Hat Trick! We're all very excited about all the opportunities. And, certainly, the Danville Area Food Pantry deeply appreciates the help!

I will take a few words to mention that there are expenses we are seeking to cover, above and beyond the concerts (which are 100% flow-through events, in which no one makes a dime) and the free dinner series, which is funded by individual donations and County Market Stores. In the near future, we will be posting a Wish List of items necessary to our work. It is our hope that supporters who can spare a few extra dollars will contribute to the general fund. In addition, you never know who might have a used item on our list.

Our sincere thanks to all who support Foodstock Charities, both here in Danville, and around the country. With your help, we're serving food - and hope - to those in need. And that's a very fulfilling element of living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

In Reply to a Response

On Friday, February 20, I put up a post about a letter I wrote to the editors of the News-Gazette in Champaign, IL. Scroll down a bit to find that letter. On March 2, the paper printed a response to that letter, in which the author, a Christian minister, accused me of twisting my interpretation to match my own misguided views. Basically, he said I didn't know my head from the hat I wear.

Of course I had to reply. My original reply as sent to the paper was far too long to fit within their guidelines, so working with the editors, I trimmed it down to this:

One law protects many religious views

Rev 's reply to my Feb. 20 letter demonstrates the truth of my statement: there are disagreements among Christian denominations concerning biblical interpretations. Sometimes they are small, sometimes quite large. In fact, many churches welcome homosexuals into their congregations, even into their clergy. I think it's wonderful we live in a country that makes room for us all.

Please forgive me if my earlier letter made it appear as if I wished to change the personal beliefs of others; that is not the case. Certainly if a denomination chooses to not bless homosexual union within its own organization, that is their right, and I support it even though I disagree.

But to deny homosexuals the right to union based on religious beliefs is contrary to our constitution.

Our country was founded in part on the concept of freedom to choose one's religion without coercion or force. To force upon our society a single mindset based on religion is to create a theocracy. One need only look at today's world to see how dangerous a theocracy can be.

There are indeed many different views on the Bible, and varying translations. Who would deny that King James cause the Bible to be edited?

Or that there are dozens of Protestant versions of the Bible? That the Catholic Bible is different from the King James and subsequent versions?

Personally, I am thankful our country allows us all to choose for ourselves. I believe that all should be treated equally under the law, including homosexuals. I also believe Jesus would approve.

In peace,

Lane

Yesterday's Service

Yesterday I gave the service at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. (I offer the service there once each month.) Yesterday's presentation was titled Do the Work. I'm not going to repeat it all, but I did want to offer the main point:

We know that, in our daily lives, we have to put in the work if we want to receive the reward. However, we often forget that there's work to do in our spiritual lives, as well.

Spirituality is not just about reading, meditating, spiritual retreats, etc. It's about taking what we've learned and putting it into practice in our daily lives. It's about applying the knowledge we've received. And that, in a nutshell is the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

In Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman explains it in a very practical way. Dan is visiting his mentor Socrates, at the gas station where Socrates runs the midnight shift. They're servicing a customer (back in the day when full service meant something). Socrates is cleaning his side of the windshield while Dan fiddles with his squeegee. Dan asks about the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Socrates answers, "you know how to clean a windshield. Wisdom is doing it."

It's just that simple. Wisdom is the application of knowledge. So the question we must each ask ourselves is this: Am I applying the teachings I've learned? Am I doing the spiritual work necessary to advance along the path before me?

I think that most of us - if we are honest - know that there is still more work to be done. I know I've got more to do, and every day I strive to be a better version of myself. Every morning I remind myself of this. Every evening, too. I've found that it helps me to stay focused on what really matters. It reminds me that I have to work hard every day to remain true to my spiritual beliefs.

Yes, knowledge is important. But translating that knowledge into wisdom -- doing the work -- is what it takes to truly live a life with Spirit. So... off to work I go!

In peace,

Lane

Interesting Meeting Last Night

Last night, I presented to the local Board of Education an overview of four projects we hope to mount with their assistance. Here's a quick run-down of what I proposed:

1. A Foodstock food drive for the local high school. We envision a contest in which the winning class (Freshmen, Sophomores, etc.) will receive a free party.

2. An arts and poetry competition for all school ages, grade school through high school. The contest will be judged on the day of this year's Foodstock concert.

3. A series of music appreciation and music education seminars for all levels.

4. A benefit concert in support of local music education.

This time around, I presented during the public comments portion of the meeting. This time around was really just a "warning shot", if you will. Next month, I'll be on the agenda and will offer more detail.

We're all very excited about the projects. We believe that by engaging our youth early, we have the best chance of helping them understand the need for volunteerism and the positive impact it will have on both the community and themselves. These projects will help us spread a message of community involvement and servant-leadership.

As things progress, I'll offer more info here. Until then, remember, serving one's community is a core principal of living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Spears Center Feature

I'm very pleased and honored to report that I've been featured in the Spears Center for Servant-Leadership newsletter for March, 2009. Larry Spears and I have been long-distance friends, ever since we met in 2001, during my tenure with Men's Wearhouse.

Larry is the authority on humanistic management principles in the world. No other person does as much to promote the ideals by which businesses should guide themselves. I am proud to support the Spears Center for Servant-Leadership, and will support Larry for as long as I am in business. I highly recommend the Spears Center to anyone wishing to learn more.

When I began to refocus my energy on my consulting career, I naturally called Larry to discuss the opportunity, and to hear any advice he might offer. We have continued these discussions off and on over the past few months, and I recently sent him a copy of the Deeper Blues CD, Dig the Hole.

What caught Larry's interest most was the way I am using servant-leadership in my music career and with my charity endeavors (with the Life with Spirit Foundation), bringing the servant-leader message to new audiences. The time was right, Larry decided, to feature me in his newsletter. And, to be honest, I'm speechless... and very grateful.

The first half of the feature is an overview of my work; the second half is the opening to my essay Learning Servant-Leadership from Native America - Again. This is the essay that will be included in Larry's upcoming book The Spirit of Servant Leadership, due this year. Also included is a link to the entire essay.

The guidance and encouragement Larry has offered over the years has, and continues to be, deeply appreciated. While he may not know it, his advice has been crucial to my growth, not only as a servant-ldear, but also as a person. I highly recommend Larry and the Spears Center to anyone wishing to learn more about the servant-leadership community. And, again, I'm honored to be featured in his newsletter.

For those interested, here are links to the feature, and to the essay.

Read the newsletter here.

Read the full essay here.

Read more about my relationship with Larry Spears here.

Visit the Spears Center by clicking here.

To me, servant-leadership is all about bringing your spirituality to your working life. And I think that's an excellent way to live a life with spirit!

In peace,

Lane

A Smooth Transition

Over the past few weeks, I've been working on a realignment of my life that's long overdue. I'm happy to write that it's all gone very well, and has a happy "ending" for everyone involved. To explain, let me back up a bit for those who may not know all that much about me.

Since leaving the Navy in 1982, I've pursued a music career. It wasn't long before I added a budding consulting business, working with other musicians and entertainers. I've pursued both ever since, and will continue to do so for as long as I'm able. In the early 90s, I met David (Eden) Nordschow, founder of Eden Electronics, and one of the most important bass amp designers in the world. Thus began our friendship, as well as my endorsement of his company in the music industry. Over the years, I assisted with special projects from time to time, and helped promote the company whenever I could.

About four and a half years ago, not long after relocating to Illinois, he offered, and I accepted a full-time position with Eden. By then, David had sold the company to US Music Corp. (after the retail collapse subsequent to 9-11), and was running Eden as a division of the parent company. I came aboard to assist with relationships and communication -- dealers, consumers, other endorsing artists, even some media work. I write training and product manuals, offer in-store training and consumer clinics and a dozen other things. However, David and I both knew that, for both of us, it was simply a transition period. He knew he'd eventually leave to do something new and exciting, and I knew I'd soon follow.

David left at the end of last summer, while I remained to help with the transition to a "post-David" Eden. And in this little corner of the music instrument industry, it's a transition that has to be handled carefully due to David's stature. Now, about a half year later, I've made the first step in my own transition and am looking forward to new things. Basically, I'm now working as a contractor, which frees up a lot of my time, yet keeps me involved in the most important activities. Everybody wins.

One area that will feel a positive impact is my work with the Life with Spirit Foundation. I'll have more time and energy to focus on the Foodstock projects, and on expanding my speaking schedule (and area). There are already a few irons in the fire, but I won't say anything more until there's more definite news to report.

To tie this news in a bit tighter to the purpose of this blog, I'll briefly note that there are two things that have helped immesnely during this time. First is the unqualified support I receive every day from Glenda, for whom I am eternally grateful. The other is faith and trust... knowing that everything was unfoldingas it should be. It has not been easy for me to lay aside my fears and not worry about tomorrow. I've struggled with that for many years. Even lately, when I know that my life is unfolding just as it should, there are times that the momentary struggles cause a lot of stress.

Actually, I cause the stress by succumbing to the fear. It took a while to figure out that fear is an illusion. And even longer to stop reacting in my old set ways. Lately, however, even when I had far more questions than answers concerning this transition, I was able to ignore fear's incessant nibble at the back of my mind and stay focused. And sure enough, by the end of the final conference call this morning, it all had unfolded exactly as it should.

I know this is an extremely difficult and turbulent time for many people. I also know that letting your fear overcome you will not help. What will help is to stay on track, and have faith that we will all get through this. More thoughts about the economy and spiritulaity in another post, another day. Right now, it's time for us to go babysit the grandchildren, something we both look forward to each week, so I'll close for now.

Remember, though. Fear won't help you live a life with Spirit.

Faith will.

In peace,

Lane

Another View on Bible's Passages

Last Monday, I read a letter to the editor of the News-Gazette (Champaign/Urbana, IL) in which the writer used the Bible to rationalize his hatred of homosexuals. I was moved to respond, and sent in m own letter. Here is the slightly edited version that the paper printed:

I am writing in response to [name]'s Feb 16 letter, and I would like to offer a different point of view. While [name] shares a specific, narrow interpretation of the Bible's teachings, not all Christians agree. There are multiple interpretations of the passages that many use to condemn homosexuality. Translations through the ages have changed the original texts, often to fit the prejudices of the translators

Thankfully, we do not live in a theocracy controlled by a small sect of adherents to a limited view of one religion. We enjoy the right to choose our way of faith. Most of us are taught by our faith to show respect and compassion for those who choose a different path. To me, it is unfortunate that so many who claim a religion based on love, compassion, respect for others, and service to others, use their faith to attack others.

Instead of sowing hate based on narrow interpretations, why not work to right the many injustices in our world? Why not expend that same amount of energy working to ease the suffering of so many in our society?

Aren't there enough real crises to attend to? Aren't there enough ways in which to demonstrate one's commitment to faith without resorting to sowing hatred for others?

I do not ask that others adopt my beliefs. I do ask that others not ridicule or belittle me - or others - because of differences of faith. I do ask that all members of our society be treated with respect, including homosexuals.

We are all children of the Sacred, doing our best to live good lives. Let us not sow discord and hatred. Instead, let us seek common ground with a true willingness to serve others. After all, isn't that what Jesus taught?

In peace,

Lane

Second Foodstock Dinner a Success!

Yesterday, Foodstock Charities (a project of the Life with Spirit Foundation) held its second monthly Sunday dinner.I'm very pleased to report that it went very well, and that we served almost twice as many dinners as we did the first time. Including meals delivered to seniors and handicapped that could not attend in person, we served fifty-one meals, up from twenty-seven for the first dinner. So our total stands at seventy-eight meals served.

Now, that might not seem like a lot until you consider the situation. First, most of our funding still comes from our own pocket. Thankfully, this is changing. (More in a moment.) Second, we have been careful to slowly ramp up the program. Again, this is, in many ways, still a private program run by three individuals. We have been careful in our advertising so that we were not overwhelmed by more mouths than we could feed.

The good news is that the community is beginning to take an interest in our work. We received numerous donations yesterday, which will help fund future dinners. In addition, one dedicated long-term Tilton resident has contacted us with the interest of providing significant funding for March's dinner! That's right - Connie Weddle has offered to assist with funding for next month's spaghetti dinner. Thanks to Mrs. Weddle, we will not be limited by the amount of funds that Glenda and I can offer.

Before closing, I'd like to offer our sincere thanks to those who assisted:

Kiss Country, KOOL-FM and WDWS radio stations for conducting interviews in advance of the dinner to help spread the word. We greatly appreciate our media partners that kindly offer their support.

Duane for planting (and then removing) the signs that got folks to the Tilton Lions Club building.

Arlene for the milk run! (smile)

The community of the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. After their noon service, the entire group came to show support, offer donations, and generally have a wonderful time!

We all ended the day feeling very positive about the Foodstock Sunday Dinner Series. We made new friends and gathered new supporters. We strengthened bonds among various segments of our community. And most important of all, we fed more than fifty people in need.

Next month, we again hope to double the number of meals we serve. The March dinner is scheduled for Sunday, the 22nd. Again, meal time will be from noon till 3 p.m. We will also continue to offer delivery (or carryout) for seniors and handicapped individuals who are unable to attend in person. For further information, please visit Danville Foodstock.

We are all taught to live a life of service to others. In so doing, we are told, we find our greatest fulfillment. I can tell you from personal experience, that knowing you've done something to ease the suffering of others, to reach out with a hand of compassion and friendship is to truly live a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Stop the Bullet

I don't watch much television programming. I can't tell you who got voted off the island. I have no idea what the current popular sit-coms are. Years ago I read Gerald Mander's Four Arguments for the Elimination of Television and the follow-up In the Absence of the Sacred in rapid succession. Four Arguments changed my TV-watching habits almost instantly; Sacred changed quite a few other things soon thereafter.

Nowadays, I watch a few programs that I find very interesting and entertaining, along with some mindless comedies, such as Red Green, one of Glenda's favorites. I'll also watch a "learning" show if I happen to come across one by accident and the topic interests me in some way. However, it was the new episode of one of our regular programs that caught my attention last night.

The show is Numbers, which features a pair of brothers and their father. One brother is a senior FBI agent; the other is a super-genius mathematician who consults (along with his genius mathematician friends) to the FBI, using high order, exceedingly complex math to help them solve important cases.

Near the end of last night's episode, Charlie the young genius has a light bulb moment, in which he wonders how he can use his talents to reduce crime. He wants to treat the problem, not the negative result. The epilogue showed him at a blackboard filled with mystic (or at least mysterious) equations. His father enters and asks what he's doing, to which Charlie replies with his concept. He ends by saying, "I feel like I"m putting band aids on bullet holes. I want to stop the bullet."

For Charlie, this may mean using math to alter the environment (the shopping mall, parking garage, e.g.) to make it less opportunistic in a potential criminals eye. And, thinking back to the scene in which he mentions that very concept, I can see that there is merit in the idea. If we can make our streets safer by making them less attractive to would-be criminals, it certainly would enhance the quality of our lives. However, I'd like to offer another way to stop the bullet even earlier:

Create a just society based on the teachings we all receive.

Before leaving you to consider the thought, let me point out that I am not suggesting a society based on religion, much less a true theocracy. I am not advocating changing anyone's beliefs or religious dogma, not even atheists and agnostics. What I am advocating is that we each follow our own teachings to the best of our ability. I believe that, if we all do, our society will improve dramatically.

Let me ask you to consider this for a day or two, as I do the same. There's more I'd like to write, but today Glenda and I have a few last-minute errands in preparation for tomorrow's Foodstock Sunday Dinner. (Visit Danville Foodstock for further information.) So we're off to a few stores for supplies and such. As I go through my day, however, I'll be considering this, and almost certainly talking to Glenda about it as well. I'll continue in a few days.

Until then, please consider that building a society that is truly just for all, one that operates in concert with our deepest spirituality is an excellent way for our entire society to live a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Forgiveness - It's All About You

"Forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who have trespassed against us."

Most of us have been taught that forgiveness is an important aspect of living a spiritual life. I wholeheartedly agree, but I want to offer a thought. Have you ever considered that forgiveness does at least as much for you as it does for the other person?

When we hold a grudge, we carry the weight of that negativity with us. We hold onto it, even knowing that it's making our life miserable. So why not let it go?

"But they..."

OK. Let's say they did. How does staying angry at that person going to help you? How is it going to hurt them? Chances are, the offending party isn't bothered; they may not even be aware that they did something wrong, or that you're angry. In other words, their life has not been affected by the issue - while yours has.

Another point to consider is that we all have our faults. None of us is perfect, although we may be trying very hard to be good people. When we are angry at another for some perceived slight, I think it helps to remember that we have committed our own slights, our own "sins" if you will. Of course, we would want others to forgive our shortcomings, so why is it so hard for us to do the forgiving?

Perhaps it's because of the hurt we suffered. Perhaps because it's often hard to step back and realize that the other person is also doing the best the know how to do in the circumstances.

When we recognize that we are all children of Spirit, and that we are all here to learn and grow, it often makes it harder to see the offender in a different, more gentle light.

Remember, too, that forgiving another isn't the same as saying it's OK to act poorly. You can forgive someone their fault even knowing that it shouldn't have occurred. Forgiving someone is simply saying that you recognize that the other person is doing their best, and that you aren't going to hold onto negative thoughts that you don't need and that hurt yor life.

Is it easy? Not always. But the effort will be repaid many times over. Forgiveness is an excellent step toward living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Happy Birthday, Sweetheart!

Today is my lovely and loving wife Glenda's birthday. I'm very excited to celebrate this first birthday together. And, of course, I wish for many, many more.

This morning I sat and watched the snow fall, drinking a hot cup of coffee that She Who Completes Me prepared, as usual. I thought of how very important she is to me, and how lucky I am to have her in my life. I thought of how empty and dull my life had become when I was alone, and how much more fulfilling it is, now that we're together.

I am a very lucky man to have someone with whom to share my days, especially because Glenda believes so strongly in me, and in the things I hope to do. Every day she offers amazingly deep support and comfort. Often, she is the first to give feedback on something I plan to do, or something I've written. Glenda keeps me grounded and balanced. She strengthens my faith in myself when it is weak. When times are difficult, she reminds me of the purpose behind the work - the vision and the mission that drives me.

For all these reasons and many more, I'm going to work my hardest to make this a special day for her. We're going to dinner with many members of her family - at the restaurant she loves best. I'm going to make sure everything is clean when she gets home, so she won't feel the need to do anything. I'll make certain the pets are cared for, and that the driveway is already shoveled.

Most important of all, I'll do all I can to show her how very dear to me she is.

Happy birthday, sweetheart! I hope it's a wonderful day!!

In peace,

Lane

God is Too Big to Fit Into One Religion

Several weeks ago, Glenda and I made a day-trip to East Peoria. We went so she could show me some of the interesting shops there, and to pick up some incense and such. While there, Glenda saw a button that made perfect sense to both of us:

God is too big to fit into one religion.

Well, of course the Sacred is too large for a single sect or life-way! God is so big that it encompasses ALL beliefs, all religions. In fact, to me, the Sacred is so big that it encompasses everything in existence.

Imagine a loving caring parent - the pure embodiment of compassion. If the child of such a parent did something wrong, do you really think the parent would consign their child to eternal pain and damnation? Why would God do that to its children?

According to many Christians, this is exactly what God intends to do with most of his children - consign them to eternal damnation. Remember that most people on this planet are not Christian. And remember that some Christian sects even believe that it will happen to other Christians who do not believe exactly as they do. Consider that many Protestants believe all Catholics are going to hell, and that many Catholics believe the same of Protestants. Even within the Protestant community, I hear people saying they believe that only their sect will attain eternal happiness while all others are doomed.

How can this be? How could a loving God damn the majority of its children? How could the embodiment of compassion and love be so mean-spirited, childish and vengeful?

To me, the Sacred is the father/mother of us all, and wants above all things for its children to live spiritually-centered lives of service to others. God wants us to "come home," so to speak. God certainly does not want to see most of its children burn in hell.

A few days ago, my friend Mike dropped by for a cup and a chat. As often happens, the discussion turns to spirituality. When we turned to the concept of hell, he said, "Hell is the absence of God."

What an excellent viewpoint! The lack of the Sacred in one's life often leads to many unhappy outcomes, not the least of which is to be separated from the divine nature of all things. It can lead to loneliness and despair. It can lead one to make very unhealthy choices. The potential negative outcomes comprise a list far too long for a single entry. But I hope you see my point.

I believe that all faiths have some amount of truth to them, that they all contain the universal teachings by which we should live our lives. I believe that God "speaks" to us in many ways, and has done so at many times throughout history. God is indeed far too big to fit into a single religion. And the Sacred is nothing if not the pure love a good parent has for its children.

When interacting with people from other life-ways, I believe it's important to remember that, while this person may not share my exact interpretation of the Sacred, we are both children of God. Coming from this mindset, it's easier to remember to show respect and compassion for others. When I remember that we both came from the same source, that we are both doing our best to understand the nature of our existence, that we all make mistakes and have to learn certain lessons, I can more easily interact with that person in a positive manner.

Remembering that God is the ultimate parent of us all is an excellent step toward living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Donations Now Gratefully Accepted

As you may have noticed, I have added a Donate button to the right-hand navigation. There are a few things that went into this decision. The first being that, recently, I've received emails from readers offering to support my efforts. The second is that this support comes at a very opportune time.

For over a decade, I have done my "spirit work" as a side project, devoting as much time as I could, but spending most of my time simply making a living. I have come to the point that I want to devote far more time, but can only do so by seeking the support of others. Like it or not, I still have to eat. (smile)

All donations will directly support my outreach, writing and speaking endeavors. The funds will be used to offset travel expenses and the printing of materials used in my presentations.

To those who have already donated, thank you very much! Your belief in, and support of, my efforts means a lot to me.

In peace,

Lane

Service is Cool Again

I'm sure that almost anyone with a blog or other outlet for their words will weigh in on today's inauguration of Barrack Obama as the 44th president of hte United States. But that doesn't mean I can't do the same. I just re-read the transcript of Obama's speech, and one thing stood out clearly to me:

For as much as government can do and must do, it is ultimately the faith and determination of the American people upon which this nation relies. It is the kindness to take in a stranger when the levees break, the selflessness of workers who would rather cut their hours than see a friend lose their job which sees us through our darkest hours. It is the firefighter's courage to storm a stairway filled with smoke, but also a parent's willingness to nurture a child, that finally decides our fate.

Our challenges may be new. The instruments with which we meet them may be new. But those values upon which our success depends - hard work and honesty, courage and fair play, tolerance and curiosity, loyalty and patriotism - these things are old. These things are true. They have been the quiet force of progress throughout our history. What is demanded then is a return to these truths. What is required of us now is a new era of responsibility - a recognition, on the part of every American, that we have duties to ourselves, our nation, and the world, duties that we do not grudgingly accept but rather seize gladly, firm in the knowledge that there is nothing so satisfying to the spirit, so defining of our character, than giving our all to a difficult task.

This is the price and the promise of citizenship.

This is the source of our confidence - the knowledge that God calls on us to shape an uncertain destiny.

Service - the key to fulfillment - is cool again. And so is hope.

May it always be so. May we look forward to four (or more) years of a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

How Enlightened Are You?

Dan Millman is, without a doubt, my favorite writer and speaker on positive living and spirituality. I've been a devoted reader of his books for more than fifteen years, and have even had the pleasure of attending one of his seminars and meeting him. (Yes, I asked him to sign every book in my collection!)

What I like best about Dan is that he has no pretensions whatsoever, in print and in person. And he offers his ideas in a very clear, easy to understand way. I also really like that he has no problem offering the thoughts of others in his writings - stories, quotes, philosophies, you name it. His willingness to point to others who could be of value to those seeking to live a good life is something I very much respect, and it makes me pay all that much more attention to what he has to offer.

I receive Dan's occasional email newsletters, and always look forward to reading them. They always include several interesting quotes and valuable stories. In his most recent offering, Dan offers this little test, which comes from an anonymous source, a perfect example of Dan's willingness to offer positive thoughts, regardless of where he finds them. So....

How Enlightened Are You?

Well. . .

If you can live without caffeine or nicotine;

If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains;

If you can resist complaining;

If you can understand when loved ones are too busy to give you any time;

If you can take criticism and blame without resentment;

If you can ignore friends' limited educations and never correct them;

If you can treat the rich and poor alike;

If you can face the world without lies or deceit;

If you can conquer tension without medical help;

If you can relax without liquor;

If you can sleep without the aid of drugs;

If you can have no prejudice against creed, color, religion, gender, sexual preference, or politics...

...then you have almost reached the same level of spiritual development as your dog.

How did you do? After taking the test, I realized that I have a few things to work on. Specifically:

1. I need to get rid of my crutches, on both of which I'm working hard.

2. While I'm not a complainer by nature, I could complain even less than I do, especially about the cold weather. (Different post; another time. :-) )

3. If I'm completely objective, I have to admit that I still have some issues with automatic judgements about people of certain political leanings. Taking a minute to consider this one, I realize that there is a lot I'd like to say on the subject, but I'll leave this one for another day, too.

Wow. That's a real eye opener, isn't it? Our dog Sadie is more spiritually advanced than me... and with the exception of a very few individuals, pretty much everyone I know. And yet, I came away from that test smiling, still feeling good about myself, yet with a very valuable lesson.

I highly recommend Dan's books, and encourage you to read them. You can learn all about Dan and his work by visiting his web site. You can also sign up for his newsletter.

To me, Dan is an excellent example of living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Foodstock Sunday Dinner Update

I'm late. I admit it. The last week or so has been a very interesting and busy time, but the headlong pace has prevented me from getting back over here. Here's what's been going on.

In my last post I mentioned the service I was to hold at the Circle of Gratitude & Love Learning Center. I'm pleased to report that it was well-received, and that the minister, Lee Fellers, has invited me to speak again. (No date yet, but I'll be sure to mention it when it's set.)

Although the new year began several days before the service, my message for the day was actually a guided process of looking both behind and ahead. It's fair to say that, on a personal level, I am pretty serious about the whole new year thing. For me, it's a time to look back at the previous year - first to again appreciate the good things and, second, to objectively review the things I could have done better.

In the US today, we do these things by going to New Year's Eve parties, and making resolutions. Well, that's not much different than what humans have done for thousands of years. However, today, the parties that began as feasts of thanks have become more about how drunk we can get than being thankful. And while resolutions concerning weight loss, quitting smoking and other behaviors are certainly positive, there is a deeper level available to those who are interested.

Side Note: Resolutions trace back to ancient Babylonia, circa 2000BC. The most popular resolution of the day was to return borrowed farming equipment!

The first task - appreciating the good things - is important to do on a regular basis. For me, it's a daily thing, but also an important part of many holiday celebrations. During the New Year process, it's my little "This is Your Life" during which I can cherry pick the best times, the best people, and again give thanks for them being part of my life. It reminds me that my life is a good life, much better than that of many people in the country, not to mention the world. It also reminds me how important it is that I do my part. And that leads to the second task, reviewing my own actions and offering the most objective self-appraisal I can.

Objectivity is far different that the self abuse that often infuses our time in front of the mirror. Whether it's wrinkles around the eyes, or less than perfect behavior, we sometimes see things in their worst light, and recriminate to excess for the slightest transgression. Down that road lies self-loathing, not self-improvement.

When I look back, I don't beat myself up for mistakes. What I do look for are the ways I've responded to pressures or difficulties, and asses whether or not my actions were successful. Did they work? Did they help alleviate my stress or keep it high? Was there a better way to address those issues? When done correctly, this self-assessment can pinpoint specific actions or thoughts that can be improved upon.

I also look for behaviors that are less than my best. Looking back over the last year, I can see that, while I am an interested and engaged listener in many situations, there are others in which I could have talked less and listened more. Therefore, this year, I'm paying close attention to how much I'm listening.

Is what I'm doing any different? Not really. It is, perhaps, a more serious way of going about it - not serious as in dour-faced, but as in having respect for the need to do it, and the most effective process to accomplish my goal. To me, however, it's not a problem, or an inconvenience. It's simply putting some effort into living a life with Spirit.

If any of this makes sense to you, and you haven't completed your New Year ritual yet, I invite you to do so now. It's never too late to make a fresh start!

Now, about that dinner! I am pleased to say it was success in every way we hoped. Although we started small, serving 27 meals, we now know that our processes work, as does our time line. Next month, we can ramp up our outreach and serve more meals.

We were very pleased that one of the local papers sent a reporter, and very much appreciated the coverage. For the next dinner, our good friend and avid Foodstock supporter, Larry Weatherford, is coordinating interviews to be broadcast on his radio stations, KOOL Oldies, and Kiss Country, both of which have large local audiences.

Our menu was simple, yet nutritious and fun. The centerpiece was Hearty Chicken Noodle Soup - thick broth that was almost gravy, lots of veggies, and the best noodles anywhere! We also served a no-lettuce salad of tomatoes and cucumbers, rolls and bread, and a dessert of pudding and vanilla wafers.

Next month, the dinner is scheduled for Sunday the 15th, from noon till 3 p.m. (For more info visit the Danville Foodstock web site.) The menu will consist of home-made Meatloaf with brown & ketchup gravies, mashed potatoes, green beans, no-lettuce salad, and dessert. This will also be the beginning of our delivery service for seniors and handicapped individuals. My wonderful wife, Glenda, is overseeing the deliveries, and is seeking volunteers to help.

Some have asked, "what's the point?" It's simple, and I've written (and spoken) about it often: we dervive our greatest fulfillment from our service to others, and to our community as a whole. It is our spiritual duty to reach out to those in need. It's also our spiritual community to be a positive force in our community - to be a part of the glue that binds the community together for the betterment of all. Foodstock concerts help put food on the shelves of the Danville Area Food Pantry, which serves thousands of individuals every year. The Sunday dinners will provide hot, nutritious meals to many who might have one that day without them. Both activities bring members of the community together, strengthening existing bonds while creating new ones.

Being spiritual isn't about "easy" or "fun". It certainly isn't about being "cool". And it most definitely isn't about showing up at church so everyone knows how religious you are. In addition to, and perhaps more important than, our relationship with the Sacred (or God by whatever name), it's about right action. t's about doing what needs to be done, based on our understanding of the spiritual nature of this life.

In order to achieve our greatest potential spiritually, we must constantly strive to do better, to be better. We must constantly look for ways to improve ourselves and our community, which in turn requires that we always keep our eyes (and hearts) open for opportunities to serve. And that is when the real fun begins. That's when you begin to truly live a life with Spirit.

May it always be so.

In peace,

Lane

Activities on Sunday, January 4, 2009

This is just a quick note to inform those in the Danville, IL, area about two things we'll be doing this coming Sunday, January 4, 2009.

At noon, I will present my first service at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. I am very honored - and humbled - that Lee and Susan (our ministers) have invited me to offer the first service of the year - one that I do not take lightly. I will be offering my thoughts on the new year and how to take the most positive early steps.

The Learning Center is a non-denominational, spiritual congregation. All are welcome, regardless of belief system. If you aren't doing anything else, I'd love to meet you.

Later, from 3-6 p.m., we'll be at the Lion's Club building in Tilton, IL, serving our very first Foodstock Charities Sunday Dinner. Last year, we began to produce benefit concerts in support of the Danville Area Food Pantry. This year, we're implementing Phase II by offering a free dinner one Sunday each month. The menu comes courtesy of Bob, who is a professional caterer (among other things). All of Bob's recipes are heart healthy, and very nutirtious. This week we're offering Chicken Vegetable soup and bread, with pudding for dessert. Each month, we'll offer a different meal.

The dinners are FREE, and open to all. There is no qualification necessary. We're serving everything but the sermon! With the current financial crisis, each week more families find themselves in trouble. The Foodstock Charities Dinners are one way that we can help.

If you're in the Danville area, please feel free to stop in to say HI! and enjoy a bowl of home-made soup!

In peace,

Lane

Happy New Year!

Welcome to 2009! I hope you had a wonderful - and safe! - New Year's Eve celebration. Please excuse my lapse in posting. I spent Christmas week back where I grew up in Northern Virginia. It had been five years since I'd seen my daughter, mother, and both my sisters' families, and it was sure great to be "back home."

What's amazing (to me) about the trip, is that my wonderful new wife, Glenda, wouldn't let me reschedule the trip after we were married. She felt it so important that I follow through on earlier plans that she sacrificed our first Christmas together so that I could still go! Now that's true love!

Obviously, the trip was a safe one; after all, I'm writing this blog post. It was also a wonderful time! Everyone was so excited to hear news of the wedding, as well as the rest of my life. And I got to catch up on all the intimate details about the rest of the family. In the Spring, Glenda and I are going to attempt to make it back so everyone can meet She Who Completes Me.

I got home late the day after Christmas. Within an hour of arriving, I was sleeping off the rigors of a 12-hour road trip. Saturday was spent doing a whole lot of nothing and, other than services, Sunday was about the same. Well, not entirely true. I did spend some time getting the last few things out of my old apartment. (Thanks, Bob!!) Come Monday, however, I was in full work mode, catching up on office duties and doing final exit from the apartment. I'm happy to say that I made the deadline and we no longer have to pay rent in two places.

So. Today begins a new year. As always, I'm going to spend much of the day reflecting on the past year and making decisions about the one to come. This actually began in Babylonia about 4,000 years ago. However, unlike today, when most resolutions focus on losing weight, quitting smoking and similar activities, in Babylonia the most popular resolution was to return borrowed farming equipment! I'm happy to say I don't need to return any spades, shovels, rakes or hoes, much less a tractor or some such!

This year holds many opportunities and I hope to take advantage of them all. To me, the best way to show gratitude for the gift and respect for the giver is to use the gift wisely. And that is what I hope to do. I hope you will take time today - or soon - to reflect on the many wonderful gifts you received during the past year, and to carefully consider how you would like to make the new year even better.

Our life is a spiritual journey, but each year offers a new beginning. Our actions at the beginning are the most important, as they set the tone for all that follows. May we all take strong steps with clear intent. May we enter the new year with spirits fully engaged! May we enjoy a life with spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Happy Holidays, No Matter What They Are!

The Holiday War has started once again. Amazingly enough, during one of our most important holiday seasons, there's a good chance that, whether you say "Merry Christmas" or Happy Holidays", many people will take offense. It would be funny if it wasn't so destructive to our society.

There are numerous winter traditions - Christian, Jewish, Muslim, and indigenous/nature based life-ways all have winter holidays - and that only scratches the surface. They are all celebrated at approximately the same time, during the shortest days of the year. Why, then, do some Christians get so angry when others acknowledge all holidays, instead of just one? Then again, why do some non-Christians get so upset if someone wishes them a Merry Christmas?

Both groups show a level of intolerance that is in direct conflict with the teachings they espouse. Each side accuses the other of intolerance, and of attacking "their" traditions, while ignoring the hypocrisy of their position. Each side attempts to lay exclusive claim to various holiday traditions, even widespread customs, such as decorated trees &/or decorating the home with greenery (most often coniferous evergreens), the Yule log, caroling. The two main opponents (Christians and "universalists", for lack of a better term) each demand that only their approved greeting be used.

Where is the tolerance and respect demanded by our beliefs? Where is the walk, and not just talk - disrespectful talk at that? All of it seems so pointless, so destructive, so unspiritual.

I have friends of at least a dozen faiths; among the Christians, I can immediately recall ten Protestant denominations, minor differences notwithstanding, not to mention the various types of Catholics I know. More curious is that at least three of the denominations of which I'm familiar do not celebrate Christmas at all. They do not trim a tree; they do not exchange presents; they do not wish each other a Merry Christmas. One of them views the whole affair as decidedly heathen, pagan, and in direct conflict with the Bible.

Why should my Celtic friends refer to their holiday tree using another religion's term? Why should my Jewish friends not call their tree a Hanukkah Tree? And, if our government represents all of the people, why shouldn't we call it a Holiday Tree when it's on government property?

We can all gather around the Holiday Tree and sings carols together. We can sing songs from each tradition, and learn about each other in a respectful way. Isn't that better than arguing over territory and the rights of one above all others? If a person greets us with a phrase different from our own, we can still acknowledge it with a smile. Even better we can show respect for our friends and associates by using their term when greeting them.

Instead of engaging in fruitless, sacrilegious hostility, let us engage in peaceful respect for others in our community. Let us seek harmony and understanding, as taught by our holy books and scriptures. Instead of acting as adversaries, let us join hands as friends and live a life of Spirit together.

In peace,

Lane

The Eye of God

This is a picture that's been making the rounds on the Internet lately. It's name, according to the email, is the Eye of God.

In actuality, this is a composite picture, taken by the Hubble Space Telescope and Kitt Peak National Observatory (Arizona), of the Helix Nebula. Created by the gasses and dust emitted by a dying star, it's a trillion mile long tunnel of glowing gas.

Regardless of its origin, it sure looks like an eye watching us. And who is to say how the Sacred chooses to make itself known to us? After all, the Sacred shines in all things, all places, so why not in this picture?

Having looked at it many times, I've decided this is the left eye. I base that on the shape of the "lid", and the arch of the "eyebrow" above it. Don't ask me why, but I think the right eye is closed in a wink.

I believe that there is indeed a creator of all things, and that both it and the creation are sacred. I believe that the Sacred watches over us, and will offer us comfort, support, teachings and understanding -- if we ask, if we are open. I believe that, in order to live a life with Spirit, it is essential to see the Sacred in all things. So, when I see the Eye of God in this photograph, it's not really all that different than seeing the Spirit of the Sacred in a blade of grass. Only the scale is different.

Knowing that the Sacred permeates our existence is a very positive step on the road to living a life with Spirit. I hope you enjoy the journey!

In peace,

Lane

Pictures from the Wedding

Yesterday, I received the first set of pictures from the wedding. I thought I'd take a minute to share them with you.



A final moment of reflection before the beginning of the ceremony.


The vows.


The kiss. Finally! It's done!


Granddaughter Haylee leads the recessional.


Toasting my lovely bride.


Sharing the cake.


Serving the wedding cake to friends and family.

And now, we begin our lives together... living a life with Spirit! May it always be so!

In peace,

Lane

"Let Go and Let God"

It's been a week since my last post, but with good reason for the lapse: I got married last Sunday! Yes, you read that correctly - the love of my life made an "honest man" out of me. And, boy, does it feel good!

Our wedding was small and informal -- a few dozen close friends and family members. The ceremony and following reception were held at the converted house that serves as sanctuary for the small congregation of which we are a part. And, since I lead a Blues band, we did a Blues reception - pulled pork and beef, with all the trimmings, and home made cakes, neither of them tiered, neither of them white. (Chocolate and carrot, for those interested.)

As folks were "filling the corners" as the Hobbits say, I gave the one and only toast. After acknowledging the chef and his "staff" (my business partner, Bob Stevens and his wonderful wife Sheri), I acknowledged my blushing bride. During my toast, I said that I'd finally "let go and let God." There was far more to say than the brief time allowed, so today I'd like to expand on my short toast. In other words, here's a short story made long:

For years I looked down, not up. I looked at the path that I was determined to walk instead of the path prepared by Spirit. I wasn't listening to the messages and wasn't seeing the signs. On I trudged, slogging through a life of pain and strife. When things went wrong, I dug in my heels and determined to walk with greater commitment. When they still went wrong, I bent my back and put my head down, convinced I could make way against the strong head wind. When nothing changed, I finally became convinced that I was meant to be alone. I wasn't happy about it, but I did come to accept it.

And I was wrong.

Even though my understanding was flawed, I did the thing that was most important: I "let go and let God." I let go of my own preconceived notion of what my life is supposed to be. I let go of my attempt to force the universe into providing me with a mate - and with a specific mate. Yes, I was misdirected, but at least I wasn't attempting to direct things on my own. And I got out of God's way so the divine plan could unfold.

And, lo! There she was. Right where she'd been for months! My same age, with many of the same interests and a life philosophy that perfectly dovetails with my own. Warm, kind, giving in all things and at all times... just the kind of person I myself would like to be. And from the very beginning, she loved me deeply and truly, without judgment or criticism of my faults. How could I have missed seeing such a wonderful woman for so long, I wondered?

I missed her because I was doing my best to supersede the divine plan with my own. I was attempting to force the square peg of the universe into a round hole of my design. And, since the universe is bigger than me, it won.

Thing is, I've let go and let God in many ways. I do the work I am called to do. I follow the path that has called to me for decades, and I'm constantly listening to ensure I walk the path the best that I can. But when it came to my "personal" life, I took matters into my own hands. I forgot that, because our personal relationships are our most important spiritual learning-grounds, Spirit had a plan for me in that regard as well.

Even though I finally let go enough to allow Spirit to take control, I almost messed it up anyway. I allowed my fear to bubble up from down deep inside. I worried that I was making the wrong choice... that I would end up being hurt deeply again. And I almost walked away from the person with which I was meant to share the rest of my life. In other words, I almost grabbed 'hold and took the reins for myself yet again.

My friends stood by, hoping and praying that I'd make the right choice, yet knowing that if they attempted to convince me, I'd resist. Finally, one my closest friends, after hearing me talk about something my new "girlfriend" had done, asked me, "Lane, how many flares does this woman need to launch? What's it going to take to make you realize this is the one?"

In response, I mumbled something akin to "I don't know," and changed the subject. But his questions nagged at me, refusing to leave me alone until I worked through them. And I'm so glad I did finally work through them, because it finally dawned on me that Spirit had known for some time who my perfect mate was. Spirit had a plan all along, I just hadn't been paying attention. With that realization, I finally let go all the way, leaving my fate in the hands of Spirit. I let go completely of my own preconceptions and embraced the love Spirit had sent to me.

Once I fully let go, and put all my faith in Spirit, things began to go much more smoothly. things that had been out of sorts for so long straightened out. Things that I had expected to happen began to come into focus. And for the first time in many years, I found that I was truly happy. Not just surface happy... not just happy in the moment... but happy all the way through, and in every minute of every day.

Today is the second day of our lives together, and I am supremely happy. Many of my friends have asked me if it feels any different and I tell them, "yes, it does. It feels even better!" Even more striking is the fact that I know in my heart, we're just beginning. We have so much to look forward to, so much to do, so much to be. "Thank you" just doesn't seem to cover it, if you take my meaning.

So, if you ever feel as if you're fighting an uphill battle, perhaps it's because you're doing the same thing I was doing. Perhaps you are working at cross purposes with Spirit. Perhaps there's some sign you're missing, some message you aren't hearing. I have learned again that Spirit has a plan for me. I have learned that it's not just about what I'm supposed to be doing; it's also about my entire life! And Spirit has a plan for you, too.

When times are difficult, when things just won't go right no matter what you do, let go. Stop trying to force things. Let them happen instead. Let the good things flow into your life in their own way... in the way Spirit has planned for you. Let go of your own preconceptions. Let go of your determination to be the center of the universe.

Let go and let God. And remember, as I have been reminded, to trust absolutely in Spirit and its plan. Have faith that, no matter what's going on in your life, Spirit has something even better in mind if you'll only get out of the way. In other words, let go and let God.

Wrap yourself with trust in Spirit, and live the life of Spirit you so richly deserve!

In peace,

Lane

Greed Can Kill You

Black Friday. The best and worst shopping day of the year. The day after we give thanks for our many blessings, and yet so many of us are immediately willing to fight for more. And sometimes, we fight to the death.

Case in point: The WalMart store in Long Island, New York, where a temporary worker was trampled to death by the crowd waiting to enter the store. This poor man was trampled by dozens of shoppers who, feeling flesh beneath their feet, ignored it and ran for the sales. When police attempted to clear the building, they were met with resistance from those who were more interested in saving money than the welfare of another human being.

And this is Christmas?!?! This is how you honor the birth of your lord?!?!

Forgive my bluntness, but you aren't honoring anything except the Golden Calf. This is blatant greed at its worst, and a total disregard for the well-being of others. This is most decidedly NOT what Jesus taught. I'm betting Jesus cried all day for that man. I'm betting he cried in shame at what people have done to his teachings.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to provide a good life for your family. And certainly there is nothing wrong with trying to save a few dollars. But when greed turns you into a rabid, drooling member of a mob... totally thoughtless, totally out of control... then you have a serious problem. And a new TV set isn't going to help.

Most who read this will say to themselves, "it's not my fault." They will remind themselves that they weren't at that store. The will console themselves with the belief that their desire for more and more really isn't greed, per se.

And they will be wrong. For as long as we as a society buy into the More is Better mentality, as long as we finance our "dream life" with deficit spending, as long as we look with pride in ourselves at others who have less, we are a part of this problem. We pretend to be spiritual, yet worship gold and possessions above all else. We espouse a religion -- all the while berating others for not believing as we do -- only to spurn its teachings at every opportunity. And with every greedy act, every act of selfishness, we kill our own spirits. We do harm to our mortal souls. And we perpetuate the status quo mindset that it's all good as long as we get ours.

This is NOT Christmas the way it was explained to me as a child. And it is not Christmas as it should be celebrated.

My deepest sympathy to the family of that poor man. I hope WalMart will set up a fund to help them in this, their greatest loss. If they do, I'll offer what I can, and post a link here so you can do the same if you are of a mind to do so.

As we progress through the next several weeks, I urge all of you to carefully consider the teachings of your chosen religion. Ask yourself if this is the kind of behavior your religion espouses. Ask yourself if a new TV is worth sacrificing your spirit. For those who choose to live a life with Spirit, the answer is obvious. The answer is "NO!"

In peace,

Lane

Giving Thanks

Tomorrow we celebrate Thanksgiving. And while it seems that the modern version of the holiday centers on stuffing ourselves with turkey, then burping through a football game or two, there are still many who honor the day as it was intended - to pause in our busy lives to give thanks for the blessings we have received.

As I mentioned in my last post, I have many reasons to be thankful. Here are just some of them:

• I have a job. Don't laugh - many people are out of work, and the number is rising. So I'm very grateful that I still have a way to earn a living.
• I have my health. I recently quit smoking (again), and this time, it's the Final Quit. I still have a lot I'd like to accomplish before moving on, so I'm thankful I'm healthy and can look forward to several more decades.
• I have a wonderful, sweet woman who loves me just as I am. And supports my vision, the mission I've taken upon myself to complete. I am truly blessed to have such a strong love in my life. And even more blessed that she has agreed to marry me. I can't say thank you enough for this gift, so I make sure to do so at least twice a day!
  
• I have my family, which loves me unconditionally.
• I have my band, and the opportunity to use my gift of music to make others happy.

Of course, there are also many smaller reasons to be thankful. Every day brings new gifts, new joy. And I am thankful for each moment. I believe that it's important to be thankful every day - many times a day. But I also believe that it's good to take this day to pause and reflect on ALL of the good things in our lives... to remind ourselves that, even though they aren't perfect, our lives are gifts for which we should be constantly thankful.

Remember: being thankful for the many blessings you receive is a ciritical part of living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

The Week to Give Thanks

This year, I get an entire week in which to give thanks. I say this because today is the day we will have Thanksgiving dinner at our house of worship. We're doing this so that those who are traveling to visit family over the holidays can still take part.

Every year, I make a list of reasons to be thankful. And this year, I think the list is going to be rather long, as I've had some wonderful things come into my life this year. I'll post the list Thursday instead of today, as I want to really give some serious thought to it before writing it out and putting it on the Net.

So why mention it today? First, because today starts my week of Thanksgiving. Second, because I hope to encourage you to make your own list. I know that many - myself included - have suffered some hardships, especially with the meltdown of our economy. But even in such circumstances, there are many things to be thankful for. I hope each of you will take some time to think about the GOOD things in your life, and will remember to be thankful for each one.

I'll see you in a few days. Until then, however, be thankful!

In peace,

Lane